Do you remember when you met and started dating your husband? How your heart fluttered just thinking about him. You wanted him with you everyday and you felt somehow better about yourself because he was there. The sky was bluer, the air fresher and somehow all of your problems seemed smaller.

You get married with the hope that life is figured out and you have a partner who will be there to take care of you and make all what’s wrong in the world right for you.

And then within a few weeks or months something happens that is like a gut punch to this fairytale you thought you had just entered. The earth shook for just a moment and you were on unsteady ground. “What just happened?”

As time goes on, the glimmering fairytale is long gone. You’ve settled into the status quo. Fights might be more and more frequent. Conversations are avoided because “he doesn’t listen to me anyway”. You just want to be happy again but you have no idea where to start. That is where I come in. I teach my clients principles and tools that help you move from the past hurt and to a future of peace and happiness.

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Boundaries are behaviors that you are committed to when someone’s behavior is putting your physical and emotional safety at risk.

Boundaries are not coercion or manipulation to guilt or punish someone into behaving the way you want them to behave. They get to behave however they choose to behave.

Loving boundaries are an invitation to the person to reflect on how they are behaving without judgement or guilt. They are not to cut people out of your life but communicate to them how they are invited to be in your life.

1. The first step in making a loving boundary is understanding that all of us get to choose how we and they live their life. Even if that is painful for us.

2. Once we can step into that space, we can decide what we will do when they choose the behavior that does not work for us.

3. Next, a boundary is not set until it is communicated. If we do not tell them what they can expect from us, it is not a loving boundary. The communication is the invitation that you want the person in your life, and they are always invited as long as you feel safe. And when they have hit that mark they will know what to expect of you.

4. Honor your loving boundary.

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In order to know which road to take, you need to know where you want to end up.

Setting intentions with people and experiences gives us the direction we need to go. It is the scale to weigh which choice we should make or the guiding light to keep drawing us forward.

When you learn how to set strong intentions, it changes who you are because you are using a different set of values to drive change for you. Which results in a change in your experience with the most difficult person. And when your experience changes you can have more peace and happiness.

1. Think about your husband. If you could choose any way to feel when you are with that person what would you want to feel? How do you want to be when you are with him?

2. What is getting in the way of feeling that way? Since an intention is to guide you, only list things you are doing that are getting in the way, not him.

3. Write your intention and what you are going to do when your blocks get in the way.

Example: I set an intention to be playful with my husband. When he teases me, I had to stop taking everything personal and being offended.

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The key to being a happy wife is learning what is and what isn’t your business and then only staying in your business.

Here is a hint, your business is your thoughts, your feelings and your behaviors. Their business is their thoughts, their feelings and their behavior. Anytime you cross from your business to theirs you suffer because you don’t have any control there.

We only get into our husbands business when we are experiencing negative emotions around his business. And because no one wants to deal with negative emotions we demand, beg, plead and wish that he be different so we don’t have to feel these horrible, no good, negative emotions.

But the path to a happy, peaceful life is learning how to feel the negative emotions his behavior or words create in us.

I know that is not what anyone wants to hear. But this is the path that brought me peace. Because peace comes from accepting things as they are and using loving boundaries to invite someone to be in your life as you have asked and make a powerful choice if that is what is needed.

But people get to choose what they think, feel or do.

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Habits make or break your happiness.

Habits can be conscious or subconscious. The ones that cause the greatest havoc are the subconscious ones. The ones that “just happen” or are “reflexive”. The ones you don’t think you have control over. “It’s just who I am.”

The truth is, it’s one side of who you are. God made you to be an agent unto yourself and not be acted upon. And therefore, who you really are is someone who can choose who you are.

It is your habits that make you, so it is your habits that can change you. We just need to figure out what you want to change into and consciously make the habits to support that side you you.

Happy wives have happy habits. If you want to change your habits, use the link below to set up a free call.